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Posts by Victor Pacini

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly of Coping

  Trauma symptoms are all relative to our experiences in life. What may seem disastrous and harmful to me may just seem like an every day occurrence to another. There is no comparing horrors; “the worst of the worst” is subjective in our own happenings. No matter your past, no matter what others deem as…

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Why Abuse Prevention Education Is Important

  Preventing sexual abuse can feel like an overwhelming and never-ending battle. Talk about personal body safety as early and as often as possible. Use anatomically correct words as parents. Keep an open dialogue about relationships, feelings, and seemingly everyday and mundane life experiences. Listen, listen, listen. Maintain vigilance over who spends time with our…

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Gratitude to the Team

  Sexual abuse disclosures do not match the instances of abuse. Many children wait years, sometimes until adulthood, before finding the strength to speak the unspeakable. Maybe they were threatened. Maybe they never understood what happened to them WAS abuse and that it was NEVER their fault. Maybe…just maybe…they were unsure of how their loved…

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Circle of Trust Violations

  What is a “Circle of Trust”? Simply put, it is the people children rely on for a healthy and happy upbringing. From the day that they are born, children depend on others. In a perfect world, family and community work together. They provide basic necessities and nurturing. Children have no choice other than depending…

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Violence within Cultures (American, Spanish, Indian)

  This week we wanted to take a look inside abuse within different cultures. Though all abuse is based in power and control, there can be individual beliefs, reactions, and legal ramifications that are unique in some cultures. Let’s start with American culture. In the last few years, sexual violence has taken the “main-stage” in…

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To Be (Forgiven), or Not To Be (Forgiven)?

  That is the question, no? The age old debate for survivors: Do I truly need to forgive to heal? Am I unable to “move on” without forgiving? If I do forgive, is that weakness? The answer to all of those questions is, no. Forgiveness is not mandatory for healing. You can still live your…

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Why Awareness is so Powerful

  Understanding the Barriers Children Face In today’s world of prevention, it’s hard to find a curriculum that meets the needs of every student. Between cultural, language, age, communication, and developmental barriers, it can seem impossible to educate every student who receives Erin’s Law. Though it may seem overwhelming, we are absolutely capable of helping…

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How Do Children Get Abused?

  6 Stages of “Grooming” At Childhood Victories, we believe in telling it like it is which includes using accurate terms like, “sexual abuse” and “grooming”. If this is tough for you, as it is with many adults and children, Victor also came up with the term, “Tricked into Trust©”. This simple way to describe…

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Three Signs of Sexual Abuse

Is that possible? Can we do enough to guarantee our child is never abused? Honestly? That’s a loaded question I just asked myself. It’s hard to answer, because so many factors go into the prevention or victimization of sexual abuse. Knowing abuse is out there is a great start. The next step may not be…

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How To Talk To Your Young Child About Sexual Abuse

FULL TRANSCRIPT (The following is the full transcript of this episode of The Be Seen and Heard Journey. Please note that this episode, like all BSH Journey episodes, features Victor speaking extemporaneously–he is unscripted and unedited.) This is Victor Pacini. I want to welcome you to another episode of the Be Seen and Heard Journey.…

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